Church Etiquette

The Church, Her Services, and Basic Church Etiquette

Welcome!

You've made the decision to visit an Orthodox Christian church, now what?

When you first visit a church, you might be worried about doing something “wrong,” something out of step.  Perfectly normal.  One of the burning desires for most of us who have come to the Church is to learn “all the things."  Wondering "What am I supposed to do, when am I supposed to do it?" and "why do we do it that way" are common.

Our parish is accustomed to visitors from various religious and ethnic backgrounds.  We are non-judgemental and have no expectations that you "do things the right way."  Still, we know you will have a desire to be respectful, so here are some answers to commonly asked questions:

Entering the Church Building

If you've never been to an Orthodox Christian Church, even the act of stepping in may seem foreign.  You will find candles, icons, and the aroma of incense.  All visitors are welcome, but not obligated, to venerate icons, purchase and light candles, and come to pray for any services we hold.

Appropriate Attire

While we do not look to exclude anybody from entering the church based on attire, please be mindful that the church building is the House of God and within people are trying to pray.  The attire worn to church is one small way by which we can help one another to focus, rather than be distracted.

As general guidelines we ask you to refrain from wearing shorts, low-cut shirts or otherwise “revealing” or “loud” clothing when in church.

Slacks, buttoned shirts, skirts knee-length and longer, and shirts which cover the shoulders are always appropriate and appreciated. 

Do I have to stand?

Orthodox Christians stand during the majority of services because we are representing Jesus Christ Who is risen from the dead.  It is appropriate, but not necessary, for you to stand as well, especially if you have health issues or are pregnant.  

Greeting the Clergy

Priests ought to be greeted as "Father [insert first name].  If you are comfortable, it is appropriate to ask for a blessing.  To do so, simply place your right hand over your left in the form of a cross, palms up, and say "Father, bless."  The priest will then bless you and place his hand into yours, at which time, you kiss it.

Leaving the Service

At the end of a service, it is typical for those gathered in prayer to again follow one another and receive a blessing from the priest or kiss the cross he holds and the hand with which he holds it.  If you are not comfortable doing so, please just approach the priest and give him a chance to welcome you.

You Did It!

Hopefully you've found attending the service edifying and welcoming.  You will likely have a lot more questions, which we welcome.  Feel free to ask our greeters or priest for more information.  You also may be interested in attending our Inquirer's Class which is an open forum for asking whatever questions you might have. 

Either way, we look forward to praying with, and getting to know, you!